About Me
B (She/They)
I’m B, also known as Professor Playtime. I work with LGBTQIA+, non-monogamous folks, & our allies.
My coaching, workshops, and community spaces aim to further decolonization efforts by being trauma-informed, and rooted in consent, equity, and integrity. I don’t believe in fixing people -I believe in creating spaces where people remember who they are.
My work is informed by my own journey through ADHD, trauma, alternative lifestyles, and neurodivergence. I’ve studied psychology, somatics, sacred sexuality, shadow work, plant medicine, and nervous system healing - and I bring all of that into the spaces I hold.
This isn’t just personal growth -it’s culture-shifting. Together, we’re dismantling the systems that disconnect us and rebuilding from a place of cooperation, reverence, and liberation.
More about me…
Ok, the ‘blurb’ above give you a tiny insight into who I am and what I do, but it in no way encompasses the full story.
I know in my core, that I was born to seek out truths, and to challenge injustice with the privileges I’ve been given.
Early on in my life I struggled greatly with a gift for seeing and feeling thing’s that others could (or would) not. But I was surrounded by people who could not help me make sense of my world. This coupled with overwhelming, all consuming, empathy and the struggles of ADHD, created a recipe for a lot of trauma and mental health issues.
I say all of this with the deep awareness that being born into a middle class family as a straight presenting, cis presenting, white, woman, I have had many advantages others have not.
I have made such incredible mistakes, caused harm to others and myself, all in the process of unlearning. In the past I’ve been a terrible partner and employee, I’ve been broke and houseless, abusive and abused, ignorant and oppressive, perpetuated racism, ableism and more.
So why do I tell this here in my “about me” page? Because I think it’s important to understand the human behind any Coach. To challenge anyone you’re allowing to influence you. To hold them accountable to who they say they are. I share all of this here because for a very long time, this is what I had learned to hate most about myself. Because there was a time where I would have believed sharing this would make me undesireable. It was healing out loud, in community, that ultimately saved me from myself.
What I didn’t realize when I started out on this journey, was that through alchemizing my own experiences I would become a better advocate for social change, a more involved ally, and an active participant in making the world a better place for all people in the ways I know how. You see, this work often starts out personal, but the effects are so much more larger then we may realize.
Collectively I have spent over a 15 years learning, healing and reintegrating in both western sciences and eastern/indigenous practices. I’ve spend 5 years coaching, building conscious communities, and facilitating healing spaces around the world. I bring this all up here, because I think it’s far more effective then simply listing my degrees and certifications. I don’t try to sell myself as a “healed” person, instead I want you to know where I have been with the hopes it gives you permission to show up as your “less than perfect self” with me. It’s not enough for me to tell you I offer decolonized peer support, I want to show you. I’ve lived through experiences and have been versions of myself that many try and hide away. My work is in bringing those parts to the surface so they can be loved, transmuted, and integrated. So no, I am no where near perfect, I do not have all the answers. I am a continuous work in progress. But what I can offer is a safer space, my years of experience, and the empowerment to accept your shadow simply through my acceptance of mine.
I’m here to tell you the parts that you’ve been taught to hate about yourself, are where your true power lives.
A few who’ve been essential to this journey:
Liz, She/Her
Director of Strategic Partnerships
Liz is an activist and a passionate advocate for Sex Worker rights. They have been organizing in sex-positive circles for the past ten years, with half a dozen organizations and continue to push for inclusive, sex positive spaces as a leader and Co-founder of forLove. They are also the Founder of Girlgy, a social club for femmes and thems. And have taught workshops in sex positivity, consent, and kink fundamentals, as well as advanced Shibari, impact play, and sensory deprivation, with Intimate Horizons and the Citadel.
Kyle, He/Him
Technical Experience Engineer
In loving memory.
Kyle was a Systems Analyst and Engineer working at the intersection of technology, wellness, and sexuality. He brought over a decade of experience supporting sex-positive communities, particularly in the world of trauma-informed BDSM. He also had 5 years’ experience as an I-Group facilitator with the Mankind Project, studied with Human Awareness Institute, and was a certified Erotic Blueprint Coach. He was a certified Shiatsu acupressurist for over 15 years. His passion for creating effortless user experiences and crafting intentional relationships between humans and technology was foundational in the birth of forLove.
Mischa Byruck, He/Him
Finance Lead
Mischa is a men’s integrity and accountability coach at Evolve.Men, where he coaches, teaches and writes on the intersection of gender and power in society. Previously he ran partnerships for DataKind and Code for America and worked in international development in Brazil, India, Ghana and Nepal. In 2005 he founded Emergency Communities, a $10 million disaster relief organization. He has a BA from Columbia and an MPA from NYU.
Ali Bravo, She/Her
Member Engagement Lead
Ali (aka Professor Pervert) started as an enthusiastic participant at For Love parties and has grown into a valued team member. Ali is an artist/leatherworker/seamstress who makes handbags and bondage gear. She also facilitates groups exploring embodiment and radical self-acceptance. She is passionate about honoring the full spectrum of ourselves so that we may honor the same in others and is a fierce advocate for everyone’s worthiness to feel pleasure and at home in their bodies.